I am a little drained emotionally while writing this one as I want you to know the biggest and by far the most important life lessons and how I adapted to it accordingly. I have been the kind who gets easily attached to people in my life and with time, it affects me and my life in some way or the other. Life taught me a lot of things and one should experience it in their twenties. It’s important to experience these phases. It helps you find yourself. I found myself.
Here’s what life taught me in my twenties that you should learn too.
1. The Act Of Moving On:
I have lost two lovely friends in a matter of one year and having to let them go has been a really difficult task for me. As I mentioned in my things to know about me post a while ago about my short tempered personality, I let that temper make an alliance with my ego while also managing to ruin two beautiful friendships.
Now, I learnt a lot of things in life but the most important lesson as a person in twenties we all need to embrace is THE ACT OF MOVING ON! I moved on. For the better. I understood that If I keep waiting for them to come back and for myself to learn from these scenarios, I will be stuck.
I can’t really call it depression, But I majorly was upset, not on these two friends I lost, but on myself. On myself for letting them affect me, my lifestyle, my choices and preferences and for the worse, my entire mindset. I turned from a social butterfly to a I-love-isolation-kind of person, from being the limelight and heart of the party to being the kind who cancelled all plans, from being a person with an active mindset to being a person with a regressive mindset, from being a joyful, loving and bubbly person to being a bad, foul mouthed person. I let others affect me. This is where I learnt that I need to love (fall in love synonym) myself first. That I come first. That for me, I am the most important person in the world and everything else comes later.
2. Self-love is the best love:
Yes, you heard me right. If you are being the kind who believes it is important to love others, you are right. But at the same time, if you cannot love your cell, your skin, your body, your eyes, your tummy, your thighs – none of loving that other person would matter. I styled my mindset into believing that I am more than WHAT YOU SEE of me. Believe in yourself, I am strong and powerful, I’m more than just (just in case meaning) my body and more than an objectified personality. Trust your instints, say ‘I am more to myself and way more than just a girl that can be lustful to many.’
3. Making time (race against time phrase) for yourself:
With time I started taking care of my body, I started working out. I started eating clean, left alcohol, junk and degraded food types. I left all that affected my unhealthy lifestyle and started out clean. Somehow, I saw a major transformation. It turned me into a positive human being, I turned into the kind that advocated “MAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF” as my QUOTE FOR A LIFETIME. I started taking care of the little things that I need to be happy, that my body, mind and soul needed to rejuvenate. I learnt that my needs came first and that I was my own major priority.
4. Eliminating Pessimism:
When I initiated a positive change in me, I started with eliminating the bad. There might be subjects too touchy, people too pushy and actions too influencing that we need to run away from or even better, Delete from our lives. I blocked 91 contacts from my contact list in one single go. I pushed away any contact in my life that somehow created a negative aura around me or spoke ill about me or for me or for any other person.
5. Difference between Temporary and Permanent Love:
As a college going girl, I thought Love is the end of life and all I seeked all my college life was TO BE LOVED. I craved so much of it that I managed to turn into a girl with low self-esteem. With time, I understood that the right one has to eventually cross your path so why hurry. I broke up with my then boyfriend and started living a happy life of single-hood. Cherishing memories far more than I ever could being temporarily attached to my then Boyfriend.
While all of us are flawed and all of us are imperfect, try balancing yourself between the two. Try loving those flaws and imperfections within you. Start cherishing your NOW and try to seek what you WHY is. Your purpose in life, Why are you here and what you wish to be. Eliminate factors that may affect you negatively in some manner and live life the fullest.
BTW, What are a few things that you learnt in your life? What made you YOU? What made you believe that Life is not all that and that you still have more to learn and explore? Let me know in the comments below – what life lessons you learnt along your way!
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