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What life taught me in my twenties!

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Hello Loves,
I am a little drained emotionally while writing this one as I want you to know the biggest and by far the most important life lessons and how I adapted to it accordingly. I have been the kind who gets easily attached to people in my life and with time, it affects me and my life in some way or the other. Life taught me a lot of things and one should experience it in their twenties. It’s important to experience these phases. It helps you find yourself. I found myself. 

Here’s what life taught me in my twenties that you should learn too.

 

1. The Act Of Moving On:

I have lost two lovely friends in a matter of one year and having to let them go has been a really difficult task for me. As I mentioned in my things to know about me post a while ago about my short tempered personality, I let that temper make an alliance with my ego while also managing to ruin two beautiful friendships.

Now, I learnt a lot of things in life but the most important lesson as a person in twenties we all need to embrace is THE ACT OF MOVING ON! I moved on. For the better. I understood that If I keep waiting for them to come back and for myself to learn from these scenarios, I will be stuck.

I can’t really call it depression, But I majorly was upset, not on these two friends I lost, but on myself. On myself for letting them affect me, my lifestyle, my choices and preferences and for the worse, my entire mindset. I turned from a social butterfly to a I-love-isolation-kind of person, from being the limelight and heart of the party to being the kind who cancelled all plans, from being a person with an active mindset to being a person with a regressive mindset, from being a joyful, loving and bubbly person to being a bad, foul mouthed person. I let others affect me. This is where I learnt that I need to love (fall in love synonym) myself first. That I come first. That for me, I am the most important person in the world and everything else comes later.

2. Self-love is the best love:

Yes, you heard me right. If you are being the kind who believes it is important to love others, you are right. But at the same time, if you cannot love your cell, your skin, your body, your eyes, your tummy, your thighs – none of loving that other person would matter. I styled my mindset into believing that I am more than WHAT YOU SEE of me. Believe in yourself, I am strong and powerful, I’m more than just (just in case meaning) my body and more than an objectified personality. Trust your instints, say ‘I am more to myself and way more than just a girl that can be lustful to many.’

3. Making time (race against time phrase) for yourself:

With time I started taking care of my body, I started working out. I started eating clean, left alcohol, junk and degraded food types. I left all that affected my unhealthy lifestyle and started out clean. Somehow, I saw a major transformation. It turned me into a positive human being, I turned into the kind that advocated “MAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF” as my QUOTE FOR A LIFETIME. I started taking care of the little things that I need to be happy, that my body, mind and soul needed to rejuvenate. I learnt that my needs came first and that I was my own major priority.

4. Eliminating Pessimism:

When I initiated a positive change in me, I started with eliminating the bad. There might be subjects too touchy, people too pushy and actions too influencing that we need to run away from or even better, Delete from our lives. I blocked 91 contacts from my contact list in one single go. I pushed away any contact in my life that somehow created a negative aura around me or spoke ill about me or for me or for any other person.

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5. Difference between Temporary and Permanent Love:

As a college going girl, I thought Love is the end of life and all I seeked all my college life was TO BE LOVED. I craved so much of it that I managed to turn into a girl with low self-esteem. With time, I understood that the right one has to eventually cross your path so why hurry. I broke up with my then boyfriend and started living a happy life of single-hood. Cherishing memories far more than I ever could being temporarily attached to my then Boyfriend.

While all of us are flawed and all of us are imperfect, try balancing yourself between the two. Try loving those flaws and imperfections within you. Start cherishing your NOW and try to seek what you WHY is. Your purpose in life, Why are you here and what you wish to be. Eliminate factors that may affect you negatively in some manner and live life the fullest.

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BTW, What are a few things that you learnt in your life? What made you YOU? What made you believe that Life is not all that and that you still have more to learn and explore? Let me know in the comments below – what life lessons you learnt along your way!

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14 Comments

  • Reply
    neha solanki
    March 27, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    Yeah! You are right believing in urself and keep negativity away helps in self confidence.
    When you love (fall in love synonym) yourself and believe in your strength no one can stop you from achieving your goals and success in life.
    Stay happy because everything happens for a good cause. Love yourself 😍

    Waiting for your more write-ups @Nikita Raikwar.😘

    • Reply
      Nikita Raikwar
      March 27, 2017 at 9:50 pm

      Thanks Neha. This means a lot coming from you.

  • Reply
    Jacquelyn
    April 1, 2017 at 11:58 pm

    Amazing post! I agreed with everything you said especially loving yourself. When you learn to do that, it’s easier for everything else to fall in place. In my personal experience, I had to fail to understand what I truly wanted.

    • Reply
      Nikita Raikwar
      April 2, 2017 at 12:10 am

      Yes, my twenties taught me self acceptance and loving on the interior and I cannot thank my life enough for it. I am glad you found this post amazing.

      🙂 have a good day!

  • Reply
    Phaytea
    April 2, 2017 at 1:04 am

    Hi hi…you have listed very valid points especially self love (fall in love synonym) and avoiding pessimism….can I also add that while we decide to move on, we should move on without grudges or malice…so it’s advisable to make Peace with all and then move on…I enjoyed reading this post Nikita.

    • Reply
      Nikita Raikwar
      April 2, 2017 at 1:08 am

      Yes you surely can. I second your thought and I believe it is equally important to let go ego and keep grudges and malice at bay when we decide to move on. I guess that makes the process far more lucrative

  • Reply
    Muhammad Bilal
    April 2, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    You do sound emotional!
    The lessons you shared, I think, almost everyone experience. But we DON’T learn from them.
    Best line; “Start cherishing your NOW,”

    • Reply
      Nikita Raikwar
      April 2, 2017 at 4:45 pm

      I guess each of us learn things when we experience things and its our perspective that matters. My sub headings rightly states what I learnt from my experiences. Yes you are right that each of us experiences these things and that’s the point of it all. One in their twenties needs to experience these situations once in their life to understand the significance behind it.

      Thank you for putting a light on the same and for reading my post 🙂

      Have a good day ahead ^_^

  • Reply
    silvia
    April 2, 2017 at 9:51 pm

    Loved your post, it felt very personal and raw, so thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m in my mid 20’s at the moment, and can say I strongly agree with your post- self-love is so important, as is I think the ability to say no to things in order to preserve your sanity and well-being- and that’s something I’ve learned so far in my 20’s.

    • Reply
      Nikita Raikwar
      April 2, 2017 at 9:57 pm

      It makes me so happy to see that you could relate to this post that readers coming to this page can resonate with the situations I shared experiences of.

      I am glad you felt it personal and raw. Thank you for your time (race against time phrase) 🙂

      Hope you subscribe ^_^

  • Reply
    Te Esse by Velvet
    April 3, 2017 at 1:13 pm

    I’m in my 40’s now and although I relate to your post, I do have a difference to point out… I never thought I didn’t love (fall in love synonym) myself enough because of my low self-esteem and/or wrong friend crowd… I think it’s all about SELF RESPECT. Once you have self respect and really grasp that concept then you’ll realize that surely you love yourself! Basically, if you don’t have self respect it’s almost impossible to love yourself properly.

    • Reply
      Nikita Raikwar
      April 3, 2017 at 2:45 pm

      I totally agree with you. But sometimes there are people around you that tell you otherwise. They make you feel that you’re not good enough and Thats when your love (fall in love synonym) for your ownself for your body for everything around you lows down.

  • Reply
    Christina Vanvuren
    May 30, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    Yes to all of this! I’ve learned these lessons time (race against time phrase) and again. Thanks for sharing this!

    • Reply
      Nikita Raikwar
      May 30, 2017 at 5:36 pm

      I am glad you could resonate with the post.. thanks for stopping by 🙂

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